I need to shake things up a bit with this post because it’s been a challenging couple of weeks. I will get back to my plan next post. Today, we focus on how attention and awareness are a part of the process to stay connected with our loved ones in spirit.
As I said, it’s been a rough couple of weeks, too much illness and death. It’s taken the wind out of my sail and left me questioning, why does this happen? People in the prime of their lives, with so much to give and accomplish, are taken from us too soon. It’s heart breaking.
So how can we lift our spirits and feel connected? Simply remember our loved ones in spirit are around us all the time. They are in good health and are cheering for us at each turn. They don’t want to see us sad or depressed, they want us to live a full life, enjoying every moment. At a recent memorial service, I was happy to hear the Deacon share stories of his loved one’s presence. Whether it was the way a napkin was folded, or specific saying or song. He knew it was his loved one giving him a gentle nudge and reminder that they were still there.
Paying attention is critical to noticing the signs. My maternal grandmother passed away 25 years ago and has been trying to get me to pay attention ever since. It’s only in the past couple of years that I have realized coins and rice pudding are her hallmarks. She was at the aforementioned memorial service for her sister-in-law in the form of candy orange slices. You may think that I am silly. But as I handed one to my mother I said, “Mom, Nanny is here today, she loved orange slices”. My Aunt walked up to me minutes later and said the same thing. We felt the love of my grandmother in that moment. Coincidence, I think not.
My grandmother was famous for her rice pudding. We all stood by her at the stove to learn the recipe and technique. Even after she passed, I would consult with my grandfather to make sure the recipe was just right. Now, in times of crisis (or when we need a hug from Nanny) rice pudding shows up. It was on my mother’s food tray in the emergency room. After a medical procedure, a waitress in a diner walked past us with beautiful servings of rice pudding. Rice pudding catches my eye in the grocery store when it’s on sale. Trust me, it’s my grandmother with a hug.
Do you find feathers or coins or see a specific bird frequently. Do you hear their favorite song? Smell their perfume? These are often signs of our loved ones. Two years ago, I was worried about an issue in our family. At the same time, a pair of cardinals (one male, one female) showed up everywhere I went. I mean everywhere. Around my house. At my parents’ house. Visiting family in Massachusetts. Visiting friends in Maryland. Everywhere. I literally yelled out the window “OK, you have my attention, who are you?” I questioned everyone about cardinals and it wasn’t until I mentioned it to my Aunt that she made me aware that my grandmother loved cardinals. Instantly, I realized it was my paternal grandmother and grandfather who were assuring me that they were watching over us and everything would be ok. The cardinals were present until our issue was resolved. They took care of us.
The last visit with my Aunt, she was wearing new pajamas that had cardinals all over them. She was proud of her new pajamas and repeatedly reminded me that Nanny Em loved cardinals and so did she. I knew in that moment, my grandmother’s arms were around her, comforting her. Earlier this week, my Aunt passed away. Her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, family and friends are all grieving. She was a special person. She gave me the courage to write this blog post, which I am doing with tears in my eyes. I will miss her. My silver lining is that I know she will be listening and watching over all of us in the days ahead.
Pay attention to the signs. That cardinal might be watching over you. I know it is watching over me.
Peace, Love and Sparks. Deb
It's almost Spring! I recently spent a long weekend in LA and soaked in the good weather and all the Hollywoood and LA excitement I could handle. I spent a beautiful Sunday afternoon at The Getty Center, a museum in Los Angeles where the wisteria was in full bloom (see pics).
It was fun to be in a new city with great weather. New adventures always pick me up and give me energy. I have a couple of adventures planned for the Summer and Fall. Have you planned your vacation adventures? Keep reading...
Peace, Love and Sparks! Deb
In this installment of Deb's Sparks, we will explore the second letter in SPARK - P is for Passion! SPARK is an acronym that I developed to remind us of the components of our purpose, and the P could have represented Passion or Purpose. I chose Passion.
What are you passionate about? Some people answer this question quickly and others hesitate. I encourage you to stop and think about this question, what are YOU passionate about? What comes to mind first? second? Find your journal and write these things down. Remember, this is your journey and its OK to discover your passion along the way.
How do you spend your free time? If you had no demands on your time, what would you do? Think about this for a few minutes and again, write these down in your journal. Typically, we spend our free time doing the things we enjoy.
What would you do if you didn't need to worry about money? Sometimes, we can get stuck in discovering our passion on the subject of earning an income. So, imagine you have the funds you need to live the life of your dreams. Now what? What is your career? How would you fill your time? What are your daily activities? Give this some serious thought. And again, get our your journal and write it down. Sketch out your ideal day.
We work on our Story so that we can understand ourselves better; understand the impact of events in our lives; discover our gifts then use this to move forward in our journey. We work to discover our Passion so that we can live our life with a fulfilling purpose. More tools and information to follow. Keep writing...
Peace, Love and Sparks! Deb
Deb Wilber is the owner of Real Life Spark, a coaching practice dedicated to Igniting the Next Generation of YOU!™