As we work our way through SPARK, we continue our focus on S for Story. In this post we will work on writing your story, or at least how to start writing your story. It is my belief that in understanding our story, we begin to understand ourselves and the impact (both positive and negative) of the events in our lives.
Before we get to the words, how will you document your story? Paper and pen? Pencil? Computer? Tablet? Audio? Video? Select the tool that is most comfortable for you. If you like writing in a journal, then pick out a new one for this project (I am always looking for inexpensive journals, try the discount stores and the clearance sections for some fun options!) If you are writing with a pen, pick a pen you like or a fun color. (I almost always write in purple ink! It makes me smile.) If you are writing on a computer or tablet, pick a font that you will want to read.
While the paper, the pen and the font may not be the most important decisions you will make about writing, its the little things that we enjoy and will encourage us to continue. And if you like to shop, like me, you can make this an adventure to treat yourself to a new journal or pen.
One logistical note, pay attention to your privacy. If you are sharing a computer, perhaps you want to password protect your document or if you are using a paper journal, keep it in a safe place. These are individual decisions.
So where will you begin? In my February 5th post, you were encouraged to write about your talents and gifts; your challenges; your facts. You can start your story with these or any event or point in time that you choose:
If you have worked with me in my coaching practice, you have documented the 'significant events' in your life by noting the date. You get to define significant but I always suggest making note of births, deaths, marriages, divorces, graduation, jobs, relationships, etc. You might want to do this as an entry in your journal and then you can select an event and write about it. I use this information with clients when we discuss reinvention cycles (R is for Reinvention, May 2015 stay tuned).
I can't stress this enough: it's your journal and your story, write true to your heart. In writing with your heart (and not your logical, ego driven head) your true essence will develop onto the page. And don't worry about sentence structure or paragraphs, just write. Write in sentences, bullets points or phrases, whatever works for you.
Make a ritual of writing. It's your story, so you can write every day, every week or once in a while. Find a comfortable place, take a few deep breaths, perhaps sit in meditation for a few minutes to clear your mind and open your heart, ask for guidance then pick up your pen (or pencil or keyboard) and start writing. Let it flow. No judgment, just writing and releasing. Writing your story is a journey not a destination. We grow and evolve every day.
As you fill your journal (paper or electronic) with the vignettes, events and observations that create your life and your story, reflect upon them. We will be visiting them and learning from them in the future. For now, go write!
Peace, Love and Sparks! Deb
Deb Wilber is the owner of Real Life Spark, a coaching practice dedicated to Igniting the Next Generation of YOU!™